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To Un-learn

The last couple of months have been very difficult for me to find the motivation to continue teaching sex ed. The political climate where I live limits me to teach comprehensive sexual health education. But I was reminded this week that folks who grew up similar to me are interested in accessing education as adults because of the lack of sexual health education that we received as children.


Growing up, I was taught that my body was secretive, that pleasure was not for me, and that any form of sexuality was saved for marriage (and only the heterosexual kind). Whenever I am leading workshops or talking with folks about sexual health, the way people grew up tends to come up. There are a lot of us who grew up with these shameful teachings. As adults, we, too, deserve to understand our bodies.


My goal with Bodily is for people to have equal access to understanding their bodies better. I grew up in a space that didn't celebrate sexuality but diminished it. I understand this can be intimidating for folks who grew up like I did. I am simply trying to create a space for people to access scientific information about their bodies, to learn skills in boundaries and consent-making, and for people to know their human rights. When we limit folk's access to understanding their bodies, this is an act of dehumanization because sexuality is simply part of being human. When we dehumanize, it only perpetuates violence. If the goal is to love people, comprehensive sexual health education is a step in the right direction.


My goal is not to change your spirituality, religion, or belief system. I would actually love it if we could work as a diverse group of individuals and belief systems. Studies show that there will be lower rates of sexualized violence, delayed initiation of sexual intercourse, unplanned pregnancies, STBBI's (sexually transmitted blood-borne infections) when we educate folks about their bodies. https://www.actioncanadashr.org/sites/default/files/2019-09/Action%20Canada_StateofSexEd_F%20-%20web%20version%20EN.pdf.


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Here are some more resources for you to access on your own. I encourage you to educate yourselves. After all, you deserve it.


Books:

  • The Wisdom of Your Body - Hillary L. McBride

  • Beyond Shame - Creating a healthy sex life on your own terms - Matthias Roberts

  • Come as you are - Emily Nagoski

  • Pleasure Activism - Adrienne Marie Brown

  • UnF*ck your boundaries - Building Better Relationships through Consent Communications, and Expressing Your Needs by Dr. Faith Harper


Podcasts:


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I hope this was encouraging, take care.

-Han (She/Her)











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I acknowledge that this land I reside on is Treaty 6 Territory, which is the homeland of the Métis people. I acknowledge this because it is all our responsibility to learn more about the treaty system and how its abuses have affected Indigenous peoples and settlers. Comprehensive sexual health education is rooted in the value of consent, bodily autonomy, and equitable access to sexual and reproductive health services. Colonial practices strived to oppress, eliminate, and control Indigenous bodies and bodily rights. It is my goal to work towards sharing the land in a way that respects the true spirit and intent of the treaties.

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